I was told that it's virtually impossible to talk about me without mentioning the fact that I'm a lesbian. It makes me wonder -- I'd always consider being gay to be something that's sort of low on the list of things that I am, behind being adopted, doing dog rescue and having this weird Web-based life. And yet, other people perceive it as higher on the list than that. Why? I'm like to think that I'm so open about it that it's a non-issue. After all, it seems odd to me that most of my friends are straight and are people's wives. Maybe I should start referring to people as "my straight friend". But most of them are so the irony would be lost.