Over the last few years, I've been making comments to my parents to signal that soon enough, Andrea and I will be having a baby. (No, I'm not pregnant yet, that's one great advantage of being gay -- no unplanned pregnancy) My mom only wants a grandkid, she doesn't care if it's green or blue, as long as it's here. My dad, on the other hand, has not been thrilled about this (mostly the sperm bank part, I think, claiming that you don't know anything about the donor. I keep pointing out that we'll know more about this guy than they knew about my birthfamily before they adopted me).

Yesterday, I mentioned it again and he said 'you know I have some reservations about that.' Finally, I did it. Stepped out of the pantry, and in a calm, yet firm voice, said 'you know, you can just get over those now because this is your own grandkid we're talking about.' So he asks why we don't adopt (how to even get into this? It worked out well for us but I wouldn't choose adoption for my own child after I'd grown up wondering why I didn't look or act like anyone I was 'related' to, why make life harder for this kid?) an older child. Because a) adoption costs at least $10K, sperm costs $300 and b) because I will most likely have the chance to parent one child in my lifetime and I'm going to be selfish, I'm going to do this the way that I want to. Dad changed the subject after that.