Last night on ER, the phine Dr. Weaver was just starting to enjoy her first relationship with a woman. By no means did she consider herself gay or ready to march in a pride parade, but this woman's obnoxious dyke friends scared the crap out of her, talking about the advantages that heterosexuals allegedly enjoy and announcing that everyone at the table had slept with Kim.

Yes, it's true that the lesbian community is very inbred, so to speak. When you only have 5% of the population to choose from and don't have the things that hold many straight people back from giving up on a relationship easily (kids, house, etc), it's inevitable that you'll find yourself dating your friend's exes. But to say something like that is, to me, inexcusable, not to mention something I've never heard anyone announce to a group. Certianly, I've thought it but would never make such a proclamation. To do so is inconsiderate (especially to a 'new lesbian' just figuring her story out) and rude. Why bother?

These days, I don't really consider myself part of the gay community. I've always rejected the notion that being gay means I have to be political, I wasn't into publicly protesting before I realized that I'm gay, dating chicks doesn't change that. Straight people have different advantages, but I really don't think they have more of them and even if they did, so what? Being attracted to women is something I sure as hell can't change, why waste my time bitching about something that I can't change? I was still able to buy a house, have a loving relationship and the respect of my peers. My self-confidence and job skills did that for me, not any government-mandated rights.

Quit bitching and stand up for yourself.