Raise your hand if...
Today we had a company lunch to get aquainted with the new folks from the most recent company they've aquired. We went around the room and introduced ourselves and said what we did. After a while, this woman started asking things like "who is from (company we just bought)?" then "who lives in San Jose?" then "who hates the commute from San Jose?" Eventually it progressed to "who has kids?" (this from a different guy). As he said it, I thought "who loves starting a shrine to straight people and their nice lives?" something I tend to think anytime the conversation starts heading toward the nuclear family domain. I also feel this way when people talk about bridal showers and weddings. I knew that before the deal to buy them was done, they'd raised some major concerns about our new health care plan because a lot of them have kids and the coverage wasn't good enough, so I already had grouped them into the those kind of straight people category. Then I thought, well, that's dumb, I'm sure this guy is just asking for the hell of it, he's not some homophobe wanting to point out how 'normal' most of these people are.

Later, my new best friend at work (who is from that company and does not have kids and is not a homophobe or a man who likes to talk about things that don't relate to gay people) told me that guy is a serious homophobe but that it works out okay because his boss is gay. My gut feeling was right after all. Ha.