We're Not Quite There Yet
Today a co-worker was talking to a bunch of us about his marriage.
Nothing too revealing, just some generalities about ways to handle
different situations. Eventually, he goes around the room and sort of
points out who's been married a while, who's a newlywed, who's single
and could benefit from his marital advice.
Completely glossing over me.
For the record, Andrea and I are coming up on 12 years together. 12
years and it's not enough to count in the eyes of the guy at work who
hears me talk about my family every single day.
Real fucking nice, like the lessons we've learned in those 12 years pale
in comparison to all the straight people in the room. It's not separate
but equal, folks, it's equal. We fight the same fights as everyone
else, we battle the same inner and outer demons, we love the same and we
are a family just like any other. And yet it's amazing to me how
consistently people forget that.
Yes, of course I'm going to say something to him about it.
And if somehow, the ruling comes down this summer that lets us get
married, you bet your ass we'll be down there getting hitched and you
bet your ass I'll mention being married a thousand times today if the
mood strikes me.
So the next time you find yourself talking relationships, please take a
half a second to acknowledge the many varieties of families that might
be represented in the room or in the conversation.
6 Comments:
Amen.
8:06 AM
Sheesh. It *is* the same on an emotional and practical, day-to-day level, but we don't have the legal protections...and obviously some folks have not got the "social acceptance" memo, either.
9:39 AM
ass. obviously (i'm inferring here) he knew about you and andrea, if he skipped you. ass ass ass.
ps. if it's someone i knew, IM me, so i can retroactively smite them in my head.
10:17 AM
How infuriating.
6:12 PM
Move to Canada - we let everyone get married. Seriously, lately it is the only reason I'm proud to be Canadian.
2:26 PM
I dunno. I tend not to trust anyone who tries to give marital/relationship advice on a group level. Everyone is different, right? How could his advice possibly be one-size-fits all? A little off topic, but that's my take.
9:06 PM
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