As part of National Infertility Awareness Week, which I missed,
fertility authority suggests that infertiles list one thing that they'd
like people to know about this struggle. For me, I think I'll share
what I've said all along: that there is but one appropriate response to
hearing about someone's struggles with this random, heartbreaking
condition: I'm so sorry to hear that.

Maybe, if you've been through it, you might say a few more things, just
a few about your own struggle.

But if you haven't, go ahead and refrain from sharing whatever you've
seen on Oprah or Dr. Phil. Just say you're sorry to hear that.

The road to this pregnancy has forever changed how I feel about the
struggle to get pregnant. I've started to say how, exactly, for a while
now but the truth is, I don't quite have those words. I do know that
I'm more apt to put a disclaimer on it when I tell people we're having
another baby. It took a while this time, I'll say. Because I don't
want to just pretend like everything was easy or that the pain of
infertility is far behind me.

Because it's not. Even as our big ultrasound approaches (in the next
month or so, how is THAT possible??) there's an element of disbelief
around it. I think that much heartache on the way here sort of lends
itself to feeling that way.